It's a minefield these days as to what actually IS bullying. Things like singling out, undermining someone are all classed as bullying from child at school to adult in work place.. It's a sorry state of affairs that everything is the way it is but that is the way it's looked at as I've had teacher at daughters school explain it and a few "cases" of it in my workplace. We all have an opinion of what we see as bullying (and imo some of reasons these days are borderline embarrassing) but it's the way the rules work now as far as I know.

Couldn't have put it better myself

Certain kinds of intimidation are bullying if it's persistent. Some people are intimidated by anything, so it's specific situations.

Probably 6.3 18 stone bloke with a gap in his teeth, who sounds rough as duck and as a reputation for been a a hard basket! Always found him ok myself though ha

you cant look at somebody the wrong way these days

You can. Some people just think you can't though and think where there's blame...

Instead of working harder during hard times to earn your bread, some people think they don't have to and look to blame someone else.

Blame culture and lame duck attitude.