Personally I agree with you -I don't think a huge ban is helpful in this instance- but given that the RFL have written rules in place I think it will happen. If getting caught using the word is more unusual than using the word then that's something people should reflect on. The club and the RFL should now try to use this incident in a positive way to get people to think about words they allow to casually appear in their vocabulary.

thats surely not irrational?

I'm OK about listening to her stuff now but at first I was afraid, I was petrified.

I am what I am.

Very apt.

Ok – I’ve read the OP a couple of times now and as far as I can tell they’re saying that not being gay is a privilege.

It may be looked at in that way but this is surely contextual?

If not being gay in a predominantly straight society is a privilege then it stands to reason that being white in a predominantly white society is also a privilege. Likewise being able-bodied or Christian or any sector of society where one is in the majority also makes one privileged.

So if you are white and able-bodied you are privileged, but if you are also gay you are not.

How can you be privileged in one respect but not in another?

I’m confused!!

They aren't saying not being homosexual etc is a privilege- they are saying that not being homosexual puts you in a privileged position as your sexuality isn't questioned.

I think that was explained quite well a bit later in the thread.

Brilliant humour, amidst a serious and interesting debate. Moved to make my first post after some years lurking and a few more years supporting.

To me a storm in a teacup has been created here with a lot of people getting overly PC. A young lad said something in the heat of the moment which he now regrets. He didn't stalk a gay person in the street and assault him in a "hate crime", he said a couple of offensive words that are being blown out of all proportion by certain people. What if a known gay player called James Graham a ginger c!?!, Or asked a certain player who'd been poking his wife recently, that's OK cause the rules say so. It's only OK because the RFL deem certain kinds of abuse to be fairer than others, unfortunately discrimination in its' own right. It's also OK to mock certain clubs supporters for their sexual preference of breeding amongst related family members, inbred, 6 fingers on their hands etc. People need to calm down and accept it for what it was, a spur of the moment comment that hurt nobody. If anyone seriously claims they've been damaged by that they need to take a long hard look at themselves.

The abuse towards the player this week, has been far more offensive than anyone offended at the game.

The point isn't whether Monaghan, Child or anyone else was offended.

The point is that Hardaker was happy to use that kind of language, which is rightly considered to be inappropriate in any setting - workplace or otherwise. If you just turn a deaf ear to it, then you're sending out entirely the wrong message.

Heat of the moment, not premeditated and a slap on the wrist to let everyone know it's not acceptable. When the RFL actually start sending out the right message on every issue that'll do for me. Until they do there's no need to use a sledgehammer to crack a nut.

Many things are considered offensive. Like making jokes about someone with disabilities, like Helen Keller. Imagine the kind of people happy to publish such material on twitter.

Glass houses @AndyGilder. I've read some of your near the knuckle jokes that were far more offensive than Zak's heat of the moment outburst. I find some of them funny even, but then again I'm not prissy, easily offended or hypocritical. I didn't think you were.

Careful up on that high horse.

I'm not offended, but the language used was offensive and of the sort that the RFL have clear policies to deal with.

If Leeds fans were happy to see Cas punished for their fans using such language against Gareth Thomas, then it ill fits them to complain when one of their own gets into bother for doing the same.

Unless of course they're being prissy or hypocritical?

And this is where it is all wrong.

Cas fans aimed their abuse at an openly homosexual player because, and only because, he was homosexual.

That was not the same last week. And that is much more the point here. The guidelines and the levels of punishment laid down by the RFL, which people are quoting, are to deal with homophobia.

The example you used was homophobia. Unless Hardaker said what he said because the player was homosexual, then it is not the same.