Really sorry to hear that but she sounds like she needs professional help rather than prosecution

It's shocking how many lads need reminding that consent needs to be excited, informed, and continuous. And will argue to the death about why that isn't accurate.

She knows me because i am a friend of her then husband . They had an argument and she told him she had slept with me . when he kicked off over that she tried to get out of it by saying i had raped her . He rang me and kicked off . I said if she was serious about it to go to the police .They did .
I went to Pudsey police station and tried to hand myself in for any assistance i could give to the investigation .
They didn't want to take me in or question me so I went home . It was a few weeks later when I was arrested at work .

I have never had any kind of relationship with her nor have I ever had any sexual contact with her .

I have no idea as to wether or not there is any evidence of her ever actually having suffered any kind of sexual abuse . All I can say is that if there was ever such an incident involving her then I wasn't present .

Yes I do believe she should be very severely punished for her actions . If she is ever punished for it then it should match my financial losses and the mental and physical suffering . Regardless of wether anything did actually happen to her it is not fair that I should suffer so much and her just walk away with nothing other than a caution .

Part of her statement accuses me of ... and this is from her statement .... ' He sh****d my in my f***y then f****d me in my a**e' .

Not very ladylike language but it gives you an idea of what was going on in her head .

Alcoholic with relationship problems made a mess of things and randomly picked my name to accuse . Once she had opened her gob she couldn't back down .

I don't think you should be posting this.

You should speak to your legal representative.

Things posted online are regarded as published.

Drunken consent is still consent.

And morning after regret does not = rape.

Without going into too much detail, I have dealt with a number of complaints of rape. False complaints are real. Usually from women who have sex and then are ashamed, typically when confronted by family or a lover about what they were doing the previous evening.

As someone who has first-hand experience of dealing with people falsely accused of rape, I am sorry to hear this. You really should push the police about this. If the police are not interested in doing anything, and funds permit, perhaps consider a private prosecution against her.

Who advised against it? The police???

Don't get your advice from the police, get your own solicitor. You should be looking to sue her and possibly the police. If the police chose to arrest you at your place of work when you had previously been to see them then they have damaged your reputation deliberately.

If the solicitor you have isn't defending you properly then find another one who will.

You can't give consent legally if you're drunk.

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Complete nonsense and wrong at law.

Do you know anything about criminal law, have you had any experience in investigating, prosecuting, or defending rape allegations, or are you just posting random links to American law blogs?

If I had the funds to defend myself then I really don't think I would . Any damage that has been caused is history . An expensive chase through the courts would only line a solicitors pocket and bring it all up again . It really is better to just shut up and put it all down to experience .
The people that know me , and the people that really matter to me know the truth . I am lucky that I had such a supportive family , a partner that found it amusing when i handed her the phone when the first accusation was made , a boss and colleagues that backed me , and so many witnesses to prove she was making up the allegation . It could have been a lot worse if she had named somebody else . They might not have had the support I had .
She has moved darn sarf now , so hopefully our paths will never cross again .

Is it wrong for me to wish something bad really would happen to her ?

No, not at all.

Have you spoken to your MP about this, not just for your personal situation (but obviously with the emphasis on it) but for all victims of false rape accusations ?

If you still live in this area then you either live in the same constituency as me or the next one along, LibDem or Tory, believe it or not both MP's are decent blokes and very active with personal "issue" campaigns and I wonder if they'd be interested in this as their next cause, our MP has just succeeded in getting his private members bill against the beer tie through the Commons, the Tory took up the fight last year against the closure of the childrens heart surgery unit in Leeds and won and neither are afraid of using social media and the BBC for their cause, might be worth an email ?

Consent in itself is a fairly straightforward concept and is defined in English Law Section 74 Sexual Offences Act 2003 as "where a person agrees by choice and has the freedom and capacity to make that choice."

I don't think there's any doubt that alcohol or other substances can impair the capacity to consent

Agreed. But drunken consent is still consent. And quite rightly so. Otherwise every man who takes a woman out for a drink or two, then has a bit of hanky panky, would be a rapist.

You have to be so drunk you pretty much have absolutely no idea what you are doing, before you are deemed too drunk to consent.

I'd hazard a guess that the majority of sexual intercourse that takes place in the UK, on a Friday and Saturday night, is actually rape then?? ....